I have written several blog posts about the doing method and the 15 minute FEMALE orgasm<\/a> as seen in the 4 Hour Body. Today we are going to cover the male counterpart.<\/p>\n This entire\u00a0blog-post, including the graphics, are adapted from Nicole Daedones’ wonderful book on the topic of female orgasm: Slow Sex\u00a0(affiliate link)<\/a>. \u00a0Nicole refers to the entire process as an “OM” or “orgasmic meditation” and that is the term we will use here.<\/p>\n You can review the basic steps of the female “OM” in this\u00a0short\u00a0video<\/a>.<\/p>\n Let’s Begin<\/span>:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n A man lies down and a woman (or another man) strokes the shaft of his penis for 15 minutes.\u00a0Besides the obvious difference, male stroking is a lot like the traditional 15 minute female orgasm.<\/p>\n The man may or may not climax, but climax is not the goal. The goal is simply to experience the stroke, whether you are giving it or receiving it.<\/p>\n In other words, just like regular (female) OM, the foundation of male stroking is letting go of any expectations. Strip it down. Experience the stroke each time as if it were the first time. Pay attention to your sensations, and share them with your partner. Finally, make contact with the desire that lies just beneath the surface, and allow it to be brought out, stroke by stroke.<\/p>\n First, ask your partner to OM with you, making sure it is clear that you are suggesting a male-stroking OM in particular. If you are the stroker, carefully set up the OMing nest. You will need the same supplies as usual: pillows, a hand towel, lube, and a timer.<\/p>\n You will need the same supplies that are used in female orgasm:<\/p>\n Once the space is created, the man being stroked removes his clothes from the waist down. This step can be confronting for a man, especially if he is not hard at the time.<\/p>\n Men have been taught that their penises should always be erect during a sexual encounter; if not, there may be something wrong. But just as a woman is not always turned on and \u201cready\u201d when the OM begins, so a man will most likely be in his resting state when he first removes his pants.<\/p>\n Even once the OM begins, an erection is optional. While we have become accustomed to the notion that a hard penis is required for a successful sexual encounter, such is not the case with OM. It is possible to stroke a man\u2019s cock even when it is soft\u2014it simply asks more of your attention and gentleness since he may be more sensitive than you\u2019ve seen him before. But the process itself is the same, whether he is hard or not.<\/p>\n Once this truth sinks in\u2014OM does not require him to perform in any way\u2014the sensation can be one of great freedom and turn-on.<\/strong><\/p>\n The first posture\u00a0<\/strong>is similar to the traditional OM posture, with the stroker sitting to the right of the receiver<\/p>\n Whichever position you choose, begin by placing the towel in the center of the pillows and having him lie down so it is underneath his buttocks.<\/p>\n Help him butterfly his legs open, supporting each of his knees with a pillow or your leg. Make sure he knows that you will be taking care of everything from here on out; he doesn\u2019t need to worry about anything except relaxing.<\/p>\n Once he is settled, take your seat beside him or between his legs. You may find it more comfortable to sit on one or more pillows; feel free to adjust as suits you best. Set the timer for fifteen minutes.<\/p>\n Begin the OM with noticing. Place all your attention on his cock. Paint him a verbal portrait, focusing on color, texture, and relative location. Be objective; state just the facts.<\/p>\n Tell him what it reminds you of, how the color moves from light to dark to light again\u2014whatever you see. Once you have said everything that comes to mind, begin to stroke.<\/p>\n Once the OM is complete, ground him by applying pressure to the shaft\u00a0of his cock. You may press it against his belly or simply wrap both hands around it. You may also apply pressure to the undercock, where his shaft continues underneath the skin, below his balls.<\/p>\n Be firm but gentle, and continue applying pressure until you feel a sort of exhale in your body and his. Then, gently pull the towel out from underneath him and use it to carefully wipe all the lube off his body. Men are especially unaccustomed to being wet down there, so make sure you are careful and thorough.<\/p>\n The final step is for each of you to share a frame with your partner: one sensational moment you remember from the OM. The communication of a sensation tends to magnify it and seal it into memory. Don\u2019t forget this step!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Ask for the OM<\/strong>\u2014Feel what it feels like in your body while you do.<\/p>\n Set up the Space<\/strong>\u2014Create the OMing \u201cnest\u201d for yourself and your partner. You\u2019ll want the space too be welcoming and comfortable, not too warm and not too cool, well-lit but not too bright. Make sure any distractions (like cell phones) are turned off and preferably left in another room. Gather together what you\u2019ll need:<\/p>\n Positioning<\/strong>\u2014The man lies down in the middle of the pillows and butterflies his legs open. The stroker may sit in one of two positions: either to his right, in the standard OM position, or between his legs, with one of her legs over each of his hips. Either way, both his legs should be supported so he can relax, and she should sit on as many pillows as she needs to in order to be comfortable.<\/p>\n Noticing<\/strong>\u2014The stroker places her attention on the receiver\u2019s genitals, taking them in visually. She will briefly describe what she sees to her partner, focusing on color, shape, and relative location.<\/p>\n Safeporting<\/strong>\u2014The stroker tells her partner she is going to initiate contact. A simple, \u201cI\u2019m going to touch you now,\u201d is perfect.<\/p>\n Lube Stroke<\/strong>\u2014The stroker gives one long \u201clube stroke,\u201d from the bottom of his cock to the top.<\/p>\n Stroking<\/strong>\u2014She begins a short, feather-light stroke at the top of his shaft, making the stroke longer or shorter, heavier or lighter,\u00a0depending on his feedback and how she feels in her own body.<\/p>\n Communication<\/strong>\u2014Don\u2019t forget to share sensations, request a shift in stroke, or ask your partner for feedback. Strokers should continue safeporting their partner, letting him know what she is going to do before she shifts the stroke.<\/p>\n Two-Minute Warning<\/strong>\u2014Stroker, let your partner know when there are two minutes left, simply by saying \u201ctwo minutes.\u201d<\/p>\n Grounding<\/strong>\u2014Once the stroker calls \u201ctime,\u201d she applies pressure to his genitals to ground him. She then uses the hand towel to remove any excess lube.<\/p>\nThe 15 Minute “Male” Orgasm<\/h2>\n
Getting Ready:<\/h2>\n
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There are two positions that work well for male stroking.<\/h2>\n
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<\/a>The second posture\u00a0<\/strong>finds the woman seated between the stroker\u2019s legs, with one of her legs over each of his thighs. This position gives a slight advantage in that it allows her to reach the cock from the front, giving her the most complete access available to his full genital region (see the figure on the next page).<\/p>\nHow to Stroke a Man<\/h2>\n
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<\/a>Wrap your left hand around his cock so that your palm makes contact with the back side of the shaft and your thumb and fingers meet in front. (If you are stroking a man who is uncircumcised, gently pull his foreskin down with your right hand, holding it there while you wrap your left hand around him.) Once your hand is in position, stroke once upward from the base of his cock to the tip, spreading lube over his shaft as you go (see figure below). The hand position for male stroking<\/li>\n![\"The](\"https:\/\/www.4hourlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/The-Most-Sensitive-Stroking-Area-of-The-Penis.jpg\")
<\/a>At the top of his shaft, begin to stroke slowly and lightly, focusing on an inch-long area just below the head of the penis (see figure).<\/li>\nAfter The OM<\/h2>\n
\nOM for Him Checklist<\/h2>\n
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